Most of us go through the day, even our lives, making decisions based around a few things: comfort, joy, and likely money. You may quickly respond “not me!” about those (mostly the last one)… but let’s take a look.
You are driving around and need gas, you stop where? The cheapest or closest. You are looking for groceries, where do you go? Usually the cheapest source. You get a job opportunity that causes you to leave your home area, family, etc. What makes you decide to do it? The pay.
Our lives revolve around this selfish point of view: is it worth it to me, does it make me happy, or does it make me comfortable. We leave our families, our support systems, our heritage, all for just a little more money, a little more prestige, a little more something… all at the cost of our fellowship.
We know it’s near impossible to build new relationships, but we trade the historical friendships we have because we can get more money. We are actively tearing apart our foundation and the foundation of the Church: Koinonia (intimate fellowship).
We have lost the value in having true friends and family around. They didn’t matter when we were there so we are willing to trade them for something we feel is better. Then years into our lives we realize there’s massive gaps in our emotional/mental well being but we don’t have the support system to help us. We don’t know how to be transparent in the Church. We don’t know how to tell someone we are hurting. We don’t know how to properly live life anymore because we haven’t had anyone walking through our problems, talking through our struggles, or calling us out when we are doing toxic stuff. We’ve traded fellowship for finances and we are reaping what we’ve sown.
Acts 2:42 “And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers.”
What are you devoted to?
Start making intentional efforts to do things for fellowship. Go to the same gas station weekly (on a routine) so you can get to know the people. Don’t just wait for your gas to run out. Find little things like this to develop into your routines so that you are “making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.” (Ephesians 5:16) Be intentional with your decisions. Base them on fellowship not finances.
Spend 1-2 minutes thanking God for giving you a source of connection between people and the ability to truly fellowship. Then spend 2-3 minutes asking Him to show you the need (if it’s not there) for fellowship and to show you where/who He wants you to be fellowshipping with.
Find someone. Start fellowshipping.